This week I was invited to a workshop with the seductive name: "Conquerors of hearts". The organizer of the workshop, Miriam Don, gave tips to singles on how to make the search enjoyable. Others talked about emotional intelligence and how to attract people who are not energy robbers and also - how body language transmits enthusiasm from the other side.

The workshop conveyed 2 clear messages

Friends and lovers are not born like this - they are made.
It is worth overcoming shyness that leads us to admire someone from afar. In other words: it is worthwhile to gather courage and take the initiative.
Here are some of the messages conveyed in the workshop. Cut and save!

There is no second chance to make a first impression

On a date, what determines 40% is the appearance, 30% body language and 15% messages. Therefore, when you come on a date, you have to be careful about what you wear, what makeup you put on and what jewelry you wear. All these betray our character even before we have taken a word out of our mouth. If the other party likes you, he will immediately imitate your body language and this is our first sign to continue investing.

What conveys interest

A woman conveys interest when her tone of voice is low and when her leg and body are directed towards the man. A man is interested when he straightens his hair, his chest is prominent, there is a blush on his cheeks, his tone of voice is pleasant and he often smiles.

Which conveys a lack of interest

A person who often waves his hands is aggressive and the one who comes towards us with downcast eyes and stooped gait is passive. None of them are particularly attractive. The one who does not direct his gaze is hiding something, the one who puts out a cigarette in the middle of smoking shows a desire to end the meeting.

The secret of success with women

It turns out that only 5% of men know the secret to success with women. The other men suffer and do not have many successes. A man knows that there is room to upgrade his success potential with women in the following cases: he feels frustrated even though he is successful at work, well-established and handsome and does not really go well with women he is interested in. He is intelligent, but women prefer to become his friend and nothing else. He sees at some event a girl he likes, but he doesn't know how to approach and get to know her. Again and again he continues to give up a window of opportunity to meet women who seem suitable to him because of the fear that he will be rejected.

What characterizes successful people?

The good news is that success with women is not related to looks, status or bank account, but only knowledge and correct techniques. No matter how old a man is, what he looks like, or how much money he has in the bank, he can learn how to acquire the self-confidence that will make women attracted to him.

The art of seduction is a field that began to be explored about twenty years ago. The basic premise of the researchers was that there are men who get along naturally with women and they don't make an effort. Studies have found that such men do not have a special appearance or rare amounts of money in the bank (although that helps the sexaphile), but they are ordinary men with a special personality.

Because social skills and attraction are needed, successful men know how to create an emotional response in a woman they want. The successful recognize opportunities and act. They are connected to an inner voice that inhibits the losers and encourages them to approach any woman they are interested in.

When they see a hot woman, their inner speech tells them that there is a possibility here and instructs them to check the area and find out if the woman might be suitable for them. The successful are activated by thoughts and motivation and get to know the woman who turned them on.

Winning tips for success with women

A man who wants to approach a woman without discouraging her will start a platonic conversation and talk about himself, create curiosity, not stress and create a relaxed and calm and non-threatening atmosphere. Only then will the alienation between them disappear. Such a man will not start asking the desired woman personal questions, but will reveal something about himself and thus he will make the woman reveal something about herself.
The most important thing is not to enter the woman's personal space and not try to touch in order not to create antagonism in her. It is important to stand next to the woman you are interested in, give her attention and then walk away. Create interest and maintain mystery at the same time.