Sometimes it's better to walk away so you know you're both ready, you both want, and you both feel. Sometimes it's better to take a break to test if it's true love.

Today I was at the concert of my friend Ohad Nouri at the "Leafs" pub. in the first Ohad dedicated a song to his girlfriend, whom he calls his wife, a beautiful, sweet and sincere love song. I sat mesmerized by the love that managed to sweep me away, from the kitsch that turned into real sweetness, looking at my partner and wondering if there would come a moment in our relationship when he too would sing to me, dedicate to me or hum such love songs to me honestly and truly.

How do you know when it's real? How do you know when it is stable and safe? Years of relationships and I still haven't found an answer to it - not since the last true love I had, which also turned out to be temporary in the end.

"Patience, let time do its thing, don't develop expectations, don't give too much of yourself, don't think ahead, give him his time, you'll see that in the end you'll know if it's real" My friend Tamari told me a few days ago, when I told her that I was on the verge of running away due to fear of being hurt. Patience in love? hard… Or do you fall in love then flow, but stop it in order to go easy?

For a successful relationship you need two

Everyone wants true love, I hear every day in my community or from my best single friends, that we are tired of being alone, tired of looking, tired of going out with girls and finding out that it's not the one. It's true, we're fed up, but nevertheless we need to understand one clear and important thing - not everything happens when we want it to. We can look at someone wonderful, who we know can bring us a lot of happiness, but realize that he is not yet ready for a relationship. We can be unwilling to relate ourselves and not understand it and then just wonder why the guy or girl in our life isn't coming.

For a successful relationship you need two - two who are ready, two who want, two who feel - two. And this we need to understand, breathe and internalize. Hurts, right? But real.

Sometimes you have to say goodbye to come back

A good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend today, because he wasn't ready. She loves him, wants to be with him, sees them next year in a small, decorated apartment together, but he doesn't see anything yet. He still needs his felt, needs his time, needs complete freedom… known to all?

In the last three days, 3 of my good friends broke up with their partner for exactly the same painful, but realistic reason. My sister-in-law also broke up with my brother 11 years ago for exactly the same reason. After six months they returned and got married, when they realized that no one else they were with was right for them, as they were for each other. so what are we doing? What do you do when your heart hurts from knowing that the other party is not ready? Moving on and letting him go, even though seeing him go is heartbreaking. We let him go and try to distance ourselves as much as possible, allowing ourselves the time to distance ourselves to re-examine what was between us, to see maybe we see something that makes us not want to be together again or something that actually strengthens us to return to each other.

The most important thing is for you to understand, internalize and remind yourself of this over and over again, that breaking up was the right step, so that if you get back together, your wonderful relationship will have 2 sides that give, 2 sides that love, 2 sides that are ready, 2 sides that want to go to Sinai in a month or move in next year Together, 2 full sides.

When you love someone, let them go

Take a breath, realize that you are a prize and that parting was a good step for you, because you deserve someone who is ready! And now instead of sitting and waiting to see if his mind has changed… Forget him! Give yourself the ability to keep going as well, go out to the pub you like and smile at someone new, someone ready, someone who may not be the guy or girl you love, but maybe in the future he will actually become the love of your life and not stop your relationship, because he still needs to feel butterfly…

So to my girlfriends and friends who broke up in the last few days due to exactly the same reason - take a breath, there is no one like you, you are the best in the world, and now… Go out, hang out, have fun, dance around the apartment like crazy and know that if your ex-partner regrets it, he will already find a way to try to get to you again... if you are free of course…

And to you, the sweet who needs the time, "love… Suddenly she bursts out, what does she want?". I think you already figured it out on your own, a mature, sweet and free man like you… for life!