online dating in the virtual space allows us to imagine the partner as we would like. But falling in love is taking it one step too far, isn't it?

Online dating

A few days ago someone added herself to my messenger. It turns out that she is on my email distribution list (which is equivalent in length to the NATO distribution - and every time I discover new people on it) and that she decided to strengthen the relationship.

After seeing a picture to rule out the possibility that there was a condition, I turned to get to know her a little. student, single without a boyfriend, Like quite a few of those who populate the virtual space. She told a little about the difficulty of making contact, about studies, about life. I mainly listened and asked clarifying questions from time to time.

Yesterday she surprised with a confession: "The guy I love ignores me". I didn't remember her telling about any relationship other than a virtual acquaintance with someone she had never met. It turned out that my bet was correct - the girl is convinced that she loves someone. Someone she's never seen.

I know that love is not always rational

After reflecting a little on the absurdity of the situation, I turned to think about it. I know that love is not always (well - usually not) rational, that many times we are ready to "love" (maybe even without quotation marks) just for the thrill and interest, that the unattainable is always more attractive, and that there is something magical about dating sites in cyberspace that allows us to imagine the partner in front of us as we would like. But falling in love is already taking the matter one step too far, isn't it?

But maybe I'm just throwing myself away. Maybe because I don't believe in online dating I'm ruling out something magical? Maybe this is the more correct introduction, the one that allows you to first get to know the content of the person in front of you instead of his exterior?

My problem with virtual dating is the instant. You open a website, and like in a supermarket dozens of potential candidates are spread out in front of you. What would you like, sir? blonde? high? thin? Where would you like her to live? Seemingly perfect. Why make an effort? A bit difficult, do you need to invest a bit? We will return to the supermarket and take the next one in line.

I didn't do a proper research, but maybe you will say - how many of the dates originating from the Internet led (in percentages) to a serious relationship and how many did not even lead to a second date? In my opinion, the result will show that a relationship that originates in the national space will have more chances to lead to something serious than a relationship that started on a computer. In fact, I only know one couple who got married after meeting online and he also got divorced…

Obviously it's easier, you don't have to comb your hair and put on makeup

So it's obviously easier, you don't have to comb your hair and put on makeup - and you can imagine that the prince of dreams is sitting on the other side), but not only is it not the case in most cases, in most cases, in my opinion, the damage is double:

• You are wasting time that could be invested in real relationships.
• They then import the supermarket culture to the national space.

And then you meet all those who continue to look for the perfect partner as if one exists (and as if they are perfect), and they seriously explain to themselves that he is indeed charming, and smart and sensitive, but (but that's a key word) he lives two kilometers too far, or has Unnecessary hair on the back of the neck.

Either that, or they find themselves "in love" Someone they've never met.