Question

I am 37 years old and not long ago I met someone through a dating site on the Internet - a hot, chubby and optimistic guy. The first meeting was pleasant and I really enjoyed it. In the following meetings I felt that I didn't have much to talk about with him. Everything was so ordinary and boring, while I wait for fireworks and bells. On the other hand, he's a good guy, one who will hold me up and take care of me (and I don't have to tell you how rare it is to find a guy who isn't a maniac or one who thinks he's God at least).

Answer

Will he hold me and take care of me? Hello? We are looking for a match here, or a Filipino therapist?. You asked me the million dollar question that people ask themselves every moment on the way to the date. I actually have a very firm answer for you. For some reason, some people disagree with me (especially the married ones - which raises a great deal of suspicion in my opinion, because it is well known that one should not believe a single word that married people say). They can't admit their mistakes, so they try to make you do the same so they don't feel like the only idiots.

Phil Collins is already singing "You can't hurry love" And it's a shame you didn't listen to him better in the eighties. There is a common method among religious people, remote African tribes as well as devout Muslims and followers of Breslav - to marry people first and then wait for love to come. And if not, the main thing is to have offspring. In contrast to them, there is a method in northern Tel Aviv that is no less difficult, to live together without "commitment". Or in other words, to derive the rights in a relationship, but not the duties. And when you don't want to invest, you don't have to dance on the steps of the rabbinate.

My method says something simple - if it doesn't feel right, you just don't do it. Love has its own logic, and it is never related to the number of eggs, chronological age, marital status, sex, religion and race. Love has its own rules and whoever doesn't respect them, eats it. Got it, doll?

Question

I have had a girlfriend for many years and we spend time together and enjoy each other's company. Always when I have a wedding and I don't have a partner, she comes with me and vice versa. Not long ago she asked me if I wanted to get married, just for fun. We're both not kids anymore and we're tired of dating. Is love something that can develop or if there is no click in the first moment, there is nothing to talk about?

Answer

Just for fun? Say, are you on pills or just branching out cocaine for fun? Before you get married, do me a favor - get into bed once, just for the heck of it. If it is successful, you can start fighting over the color of the napkins in the hall. OK? My God - are you that bored? Soon this spring will pass and all the horny buds will disappear, I promise.