Getting to know someone on the hot dating site without subscription fees, you exchanged a few messages on dating chat on the site and now the phone phase has arrived.

Even though a phone call seems child's play to you - don't underestimate it! There are quite a few obstacles that you should know and be able to easily skip over. You won't know, you won't know - you haven't moved to the next level.

Timing is everything

It was not for nothing that sages said that good timing is almost everything in life. It turns out that people tend to be less nice when you ring them at 02:00 in the morning, in the middle of work or just in the middle of dinner.

Therefore, try to schedule the call for hours like 6 or 7 or 8 pm. Most likely she will be free and if not, ask when she is. If she tells you not in the near future, just leave her a number and let her go about her business. From my experience - there is no need to wait more than 3 weeks for the girl to come back to you, just move on.

Don't interview, flow

Try very hard to lead the conversation in a light and flowing way. People enjoy less conversations that sound like job interviews in the style: "So what did you do in the army?, What do you like to do in your free time?". Instead, you can ask her a so-called casual question, like how was your day. From here you can learn about her occupation, her agenda, etc. The main thing is for the conversation to flow (questions along the lines of "So, what else are you telling?", which are repeated more than 3 times, may definitely indicate a flow problem).

Prepare questions in advance

If you're afraid of getting stuck in a conversation, don't be ashamed to prepare yourself a little pick-me-up with interesting topics or questions, and my million dollar tip - reduce to the minimum necessary questions about appearance and even less than that - questions about her weight and body shape. Girls who look really good are not impressed positively by the depth of these questions, and rightly so.

Give realistic details

Do not exaggerate any detail you tell about yourself on the phone. Your meeting is approaching and you will have very little time left to grow 10 cm tall, lose 15 kg or grow hair out of nowhere (it is clear to you that hair on the back does not count).

Too many girls complain that the similarity between the description given to them on the phone and the person who showed up on the date was less than coincidental. So dude, just be you.

spare words

I also do not recommend prolonging the conversation, and not for reasons of frugality. Just leave something for the meeting itself. Rather - you can tell her something along the lines of "I have an unusual piece to tell you about it, but I'll save it for our meeting". That way you will leave her with anticipation. And if you're already doing it - in Hayat, it will be a worthwhile segment. The worst thing is to expect something that in the end turns out to be a failure.

The phone is just a hallway

And finally - there is one basic rule that is really recommended to remember. The conversation is just a corridor that leads to the real thing and that is the meeting. Although sometimes it's really fun to talk for hours on the phone and we already feel 3/4 in love, it's not serious! You don't really go to sleep hugging the receiver. So don't build towers in the air - be nice and a little funny, but leave a taste for more.