One day you wake up in the morning and feel like you need a break from the dating site to get out of the race to find love. You are mentally tired, frustrated, feel that you are investing and investing but are managing relationships that end after a few months in a depressing way. And so God forbid it repeats - you meet a new partner, start telling your personal life story, try hard to impress, invest in the relationship and once again the ritual of disappointment repeats. You decide that you don't want to build a long-term future with that person you fell in love with.

What leads men and women to live such a frustrating reality? Fall in love over and over again and one day decide that the story will end without a rosy future? What is common to all people who manage systems with a predetermined script: (those that lead to a dead end) consists of several character traits: the most prominent of which: the fear of being alone!

Even if you ignore it, the problem will not go away

These are people who are eager to find a relationship and rush to fall in love and give their hearts one hundred percent. They invest all their energy, buy valuable gifts and devote every free moment to the object of love. They do a kind of sublimation (copying feelings on the object of their love), throwing all their dreams on him without really stopping and finding out in depth if he meets their criteria.

They are fooled only by visual appearance, do not focus on character traits or ignore them. The naive thought is that if they are ignored, the problems will go away. They believe that the other party will fall in love with them so much that they will change for them. They believe in the secret of their hearts that they don't deserve a more suitable love than the one they found, so they gnash their teeth silently and continue to date the frustrating partner.

Sometimes it's better to be alone

Stop for a moment, look at your choices, start looking inside and see what motivates you. First impressions are important and visuals make us fun - no doubt, but it is impossible to separate the object of our love and refer only to its shell. It is also important to look at character traits.

If you go with an exploitative man and think he will fall in love with you because you are giving, forget about it - he will exploit and move on. If you are used to meeting women who alienate you from your friends and are overly bossy, don't kid yourself that they will change - absolutely not, there isn't Chance. It's a matter of character.

If you know a jealous or stingy man and think he will change over time - too bad, you are living in illusions. Over time, these negative traits will become more extreme and he will no longer need to impress you as much, and then you will become more frustrated. If you are with your partner because of the force of inertia or because of the fear of being alone, consider that it is better to be alone than to be frustrated by an unsatisfactory relationship.

It's time to make the right choice

Save your feelings bank and save the real feelings for those who deserve you, for those who make you feel good And makes you love yourself when you are by his side. For anyone who is frustrated by the romantic choices and wants me to help him make the right choice, and thus reach a satisfactory relationship, please write to me briefly what is the biggest problem he sees in his romantic choices and I will try to decipher how to get out of the cycle of frustration.

Remember - you are the screenwriters of your life, so take the remote control and run the unpleasant parts. Do not replay segments that do not lead you to pleasant and practical realms. Be aware that if you don't save the feelings bank, when someone suitable arrives you will be tired of noticing him and you will not have any energy left to invest in a relationship that may lead you to a long-term shared future.